It was on October 19th 2019, we had a PTA meeting
after first term and term break.
We all went to meet her Renuka Mam. Once our turn came, we
went inside and she shared her first term answer sheets. All are good. Full
marks in all subjects. J
Then Renuka Mam asked Amy to go outside and play in the play
area. She said she need to talk to us alone. Therefore, Amy went. The mother
inside me started to worry from that second.. Yes. A much-unexpected behavior of
Amy came out. That. She is having fight with everyone in the class including
teachers and Aunties. L
I was shocked. Is that Amy? Really my daughter?
Yes..
Renuka Mam was asking for any reason for her such kind of behavior.
We cannot figure it out anything.
However, I remember certain incidents where Amy became rude
to others. Like she beat her friend Hasini(little girl) for not playing with
her. She fought with Laksha since Adya drank water from her bottle not from Amy’s
bottle. Those are the silly fights she made and she was very angry. However,
for each above incidents I had punished her also.
As discussed with Renuka Mam, what exactly happening is she do
not know how to control her anger.
Yes. Anger management. You might be thinking why you should worry
about a small girls anger Management. However, yes, we need to worry. Because,
this little girl is tomorrows Women. Therefore, she should learn how to manage
her Anger.
Ok. Back to the PTA meeting classroom, I realize that my
eyes are getting wet. Because, this is not the Amy I teach to be.. This is not
the Amy I expected to be.. I somehow managed to get out of the school after PTA,
got into our Car, and started weeping... L
Even Amy felt bad and she promised not to fight with anyone.
Husband and myself sit and discussed about the situation. We need to make her
control her Anger.
Actual problem with Amy was; she consider herself superior to
all and needs others to obey her.
Therefore, we spoke with Amy, and told her that we are not
going to obey anything she ask for if she speak rudely.
Everything was going well for few days. After 2 weeks, I was
working from Home, since Shobana was on leave. Amy came back from School and told
me that she had a fight with Thanmaya. She first made a story that while going
to rest room Thanmaya fight with her. However, once I started asking repeatedly,
she told the real incident. Amy asked Thanmaya to take her Bag since Rishi was
holding Amy back. But Thanmaya did not listen. So Amy went and pushed Thanmaya
and Thanmaya fell down. Teacher scolded Amy and told her that Thanmaya is going
to tell her parents about this. For that Amy became furious, went, and asked
Thanmaya whether she will inform her parents. Thanmaya said yes. Amy got Angry
again and beat Thanmaya again. This time her teacher also got angry and told
other kids not to talk to Amy. This in turn made Amy sad, and so angrier. She did
not listen to Mam and she did not do her school works.
After 2 hours, Renuka Mam made a call and she complained
about the same thing. I became sad again.
I scolded Amy like nothing. Every day I was telling her not
to fight with anyone and asking to sit quite for some time if you feel like
angry.
Again, she felt bad and told me that she will not be rude to
anyone anymore.
Again, things were going well for another 3 weeks and Amy
cam and told me that she had a fight with Kripa. The issue was Amy went and sat
with Saisakthi that day. Kripa went and complaint to Mam saying any is not
Saisakthi’s friend and then why Amy is sitting with Saisakthi. This made Amy
angry and she went a beat her... J
These silly fights... J
However, things are getting better now. I am telling her every
day before going to school that she should not fight with anyone and if she
feels angry, sit quite for some time. In addition, every evening I am making
her to say what happened in school that day.
I can see changes in her...
Yes, kids are growing and we can expect changes in their
character. However, make sure you notice it and make necessary steps.
